When we come across a girl that we like and we finally get a meeting with her, we feel a certain sense of victory, but we already start to have some fear in the stomach by asking a few questions:
How to impress the girl on the first date? Which are the errors to avoid? And especially how to stand out from the other guys she has already met?
This is what we will discuss in this article so that you are not afraid of your first appointments!
Impress a girl: the basics
The first appointment is a very important step in a relationship, hence the interest of not messing it up. Especially when you want to impress a girl the very first time.
And the first mistake to avoid is to go on hyper classic plans and expected, not to say shitty, as just propose a coffee, or worse yet offer a movie, then there is the top … bad plans!
Because you will spend 2 hours in a dark room where you will not talk to you or have emotional connection or contact, and if the film is bad then, the girl will associate this bad time spent in your company to the relationship you may have, which is not good at all.
As for coffee, it’s slightly better than the cinema, but again it’s a classic plan and there are surely 2 out of 3 men who have already offered a coffee to this girl for a first appointment.
But you can use this card by changing a few parameters, and what you can offer is to see you next to a coffee shop (a Starbucks for example) and take a coffee to go.
I am a big fan of coffee, I drink 3 or 4 a day, and what I do is that I make an appointment with the girl in front of a cafe and I propose to him to take a small Latté or a Cappuccino and we will walk after for the plan we are going to do.
And among the plans, I propose for a first date …
… going to see a museum, going to an exhibition, attending a cooking class, a dance class or yoga … the keyword here for a first appointment is ACTIVITY!
You have to suggest an activity for your first date, and this is the best way to impress a girl:
- You will have a good time together
- You will stand out from other men who have proposed classic plans
The idea of the first meeting, in general, is to keep the light touch and teaser a little bit by increasing the level of interest of this girl that interests you.
The first appointment should never be a kind of ultimate seduction operation.
Do not stress and start asking yourself a lot of questions by putting pressure on yourself, just understand that the first appointment is a first step to move to the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc …
Remember that you should never stress or hurry, even if it often happens that the girl cancels this first appointment for a given reason, it should not be annoying or you take out words that are out of place (which would be completely stupid of you).
It’s just an appointment and you have to understand that it’s nothing at all, you have neither won the lottery nor lost the chance of your life, hence the interest of looking for good times and to have fun in the first place.
That’s why we have to bet on interesting and fun activities at the same time, such as bowling, karaoke or karting to make a little competition and challenge.
So you can take the opportunity to extend the good times you live with the girl by launching a challenge like the one who loses, pay the dinner or the restaurant later!
The idea is to create 3 appointments in one, quite naturally, all subtly:
- Meeting in front of the cafe
- Walk to the place of your main activity
- And maybe a little simple dinner between two as a bonus
So, to succeed on your first date, the following rules must be respected:
- No stress
- Not too much spending money (which puts too much pressure on the girl who might believe you just want to buy her admiration)
The goal of the first appointment is to get a second appointment, and this is where you should not miss your opportunity because if the girl agrees to see you again is that it is surely super interesting.
So you have to think that the idea behind this first date you took with this girl, is to increase her level of interest by conveying a message that you are cool, that you do not expect anything at all and you just want to spend pleasant moments that will allow you to get to know each other.